TALK IS CHEAP.

x.  Talk is indeed cheap. It's always so easy to pass judgment, down-cast someone, with our mouths, it doesn't cost a thing literally. Here are my guidelines to maximizing OUR talking potential.Yes.

• NO FILTER.

Yes indeed. I learnt recently to blurt out what I feel, it really helps. We probably try to sugar coat our words to suit people or norms and stuff, but, Stand for nothing, fall for anything. The moment we start speaking our minds, people start accepting our personalities more. If you feel the need to critique, please do. In some cases people tend to "filter" their words for fear of being misunderstood and other consequences that may follow, but its not a crime to be misunderstood. If you feel a situation or a relationship is not working, say it how you feel, don't endure and try to bit around the bush in fear of provoking the other party. You cannot be a "YES" man. Its really absurd that we do this sometimes, how can you not express yourself, and let feelings mould up inside you ? Do not compromise anything.

• STOP THE TONGUE-IN-CHEEK

I believe everybody gossips. The chit-chat never stops. Stop being in other people's business, you have yours to cater for, I tell myself this too. When you are in a situation where someone is being talked about, at their back, in a disrespectful or rude way, you really should leave the scene and don't utter a word. "The person you gossip with, will gossip about you". So true, its a cycle that never ends. If its something you cannot tell the person face-to-face, then it's not worth speaking of. When you feel like someone offended you or crossed a line, you should speak to them, rather than adding other parties to dissect the story and move it on to the next awaiting ears. Lets cut out ill talk, it has never payed..

• KEEP TO YOUR WORD

Very, very important. Do not make empty, baseless, unfulfilled promises. Most times, we become too much of a "YES' man, and we forget the countless promises we made. We should not give our word cheaply. Talk is really cheap, and without action it's DEAD. When we speak, we have to back it up. People who talk, talk, and never act are Cowards, they cannot keep their word. It leads to distrust. You don't have to promise if you won't carry out, rather not.

• TALK MORE, TALK LESS

I couldn't decide which was better of, talking less or more, so I put them together. There needs to be balance, for real, balance is one of the most important things in life. In some cases, we need to talk more, you need to share your ideas and not be trampled upon by other people's words, everybody deserves to be heard, hence, we need to to eradicate 'The fear of being wrong", I really have battled this, and just speak and share ideas and thoughts. On the other hand, some times we need to talk less and listen more. Absorb information, and add input, when needed. Its great to listen, but don't sit there listening all along, without chirping in something, when you have something to contribute. Be heard! Imagine if you had the idea that could change a whole situation, and you are sat there thinking of when could be the right time to talk, and at the end of the day, you do not speak. If you believe in something, SAY IT.

• SPEAK WITH PURPOSE

Yes, speak with purpose, intellect, direction and with right timing. Don't be lousy with your speech, (unless you are in a jovial set up, with maybe close friends), but do not be know as a Blank talker. You should not  just speak and it does not connect, educate, raise arguments, influence, or create.  

 

----> Finally, all these points are all seamlessly connected, and the most important thing is we should talk wisely, and not loosely, and back it up with actions.

" Talk is cheap when your words are of no value” 
 -Habeeb Akande.

   

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